A Real Contradiction

I am a true and confusing Contradiction to almost every person I debate on social media.
To most, I’m a conservative who hates Mexicans,  Muslims, and black people. I hate The Gays and hope they burn in Hell for their disgusting sins.
I liked G.W. Bush as president while I was serving in the Army and deployed to Iraq during the kickoff of Operation Iraqi Freedom in 2003.
I’m obviously very racist and a war monger.
I love to own big guns that shoot 200 rounds per second so I can hunt and also be ready for the occasional shooting in a public place, of course.
I think all immigrants should go back to where they came from and hate the current President,  Obama,  because he’s black and he talks all uppity.
I have a rebel flag on my truck and in my window at home. 
I get up everyday, drink some booze and smoke some weed and cigarettes while beating my children  right before we head to church. Then go home afterward to my trailer park home and barbecue chicken and ribs with beer while listening to Lynyrd Skynyrd blared up real high.

Sound about right to all you liberals?

Reality check:
I am a multi ethnic white woman who has no racism in my mind or heart. I don’t hate anyone that hasn’t personally given me a reason to hate them.
I absolutely agree with LGBT being given the same rights to marry and love who they love just like the rest of us. I am bisexual, myself.
I did like Bush as my president while I was in the military because he treated us with respect and compensated us more fairly based on the hard work that we do instead of what some politician thought was okay. 
I don’t go to church. I’m actually not a religious person. I am noticing as I get older that I may be more agnostic than anything.  Church is a business used to take money from believers. I’ve seen a lot of religious people being hateful and full of sin so I believe it is a personal decision and practice if you are a Christian.
I don’t ever use religion to deny anyone anything and don’t agree with those who do; although their rights say they can choose not to go against their own morals and beliefs. But that’s a whole new post.
I do love guns but don’t own any at the time. My family comes before the guns we’d like to purchase so for money reasons alone we decided to wait. I believe people should be allowed to buy guns as long as they pass a rigorous background check system, a repaired and previously flawed system. 
As for immigration, I think our country has a lot of leaks in the boat. You don’t take on more weight when your ship is filling up already through the leaks. I think we need to fix the system and then talk about getting rid of criminal immigrants and making current law-abiding immigrants run the system full of fines, testing, educating,  and starting at the bottom for benefits and jobs.
I do not like Obama but only because he’s making very bad choices for this country and it’s making things worse. He was elected because of the color of his skin to prove something to everyone from every ideology that it could be done without regard for experience or ability.  I do not necessarily care for Trump, at all, but if he was the only other name on my voting ballot with Hillary , I’d either vote Trump or rip up my ballot and walk out. I’m still not sure. I don’t do drugs. I don’t smoke. I don’t drink. I do like to barbecue though and I do live in a brand new mobile home we purchased last year with a large piece of property.    
I do own a truck with a veteran license plate and a veteran sticker in the window. No flag though.
I hate abortion but think it should be allowed only in emergency cases and/or for one time per woman when she realizes she made a mistake. I empathize because I’ve been there. But I wouldn’t do it again. I’d do everything to prevent it even if it meant quadrupling protection methods.
I’m pro death penalty for violent sex offenders, murderers,  and other violent crimes. Something inside a person breaks when they kill or rape someone.  You can’t rehabilitate that with 100% trust it won’t happen again. Why waste 25 years, 24 hours a day, 3 meals, showers, beds, electricity, etc on those people when there are innocent civilians and Veterans homeless on our streets.

I think we need less regulations on social issues such as gay marriage and less anger over gay wedding cakes. Let people love who they love and leave them alone.

I think false victim hood perpetuates the unwillingness to work hard for what you have. Always blaming the system or someone else isn’t ever going to help you move up in the world.

I think we need to focus money on things we can actually accomplish to help real people instead of studying the effects of pig farts on the ozone.

I say all of this because I realized today that all conservatives are labeled as the first set of stereotypes but that we are all different. We don’t blindly follow one party or ideology. Some of us can engage people we disagree with without insulting or screaming but rarely get it in return. So this is me. This is how I think. Briefly. Stop worrying about who you can be friendly with based on their ideology or beliefs and start worrying about how you can find some common ground and understanding to build on to make things better.

*typed from my cellphone so pardon any errors*


#NavyYardShooting brings out the best of the best of the worst

Today’s Navy yard shooting brought prayers, thoughts, and caring from a nation of citizens that watched the tragedy unfold on television and on social media. Millions tweeted support for the victims and their families and pleas for the media and others to stop the speculation and politicization of the event before the facts were known. But, that didn’t stop the trolls and “never let a crisis go to waste” followers from trying to get ahead of the game and push the political rhetoric.

I took to Twitter to admonish those who were ignoring the victims in order to make it about their favorite political issue. I encountered this gem who decided I would be their stalking target of the day.

In one of my many tweets, I said:

After which I began my interactions with my #1 Fan!


But good ol’ Yahia wasn’t having it! How could you possibly expect anyone to wait until the tragedy’s details are known before making political assumptions? The gall!

Implied Facepalm

And here come the silly accusations because I won’t debate speculation:


Apparently they didn’t realize that I had stopped addressing them directly in any of my tweets and that they were stalking my timeline and responding to me after I had told them they were blocked. Logic and intelligence, people.


But a kind friend who possesses logical thinking skills came to my rescue:

Nooooo! The stupid! It hurts! What part of “blocked” and “go away” doesn’t this nitwit get?!


Spock Lack of logic

Then I made it clear I was not avoiding debate but instead, avoiding debate on a tragedy that was not under control and in which no true facts were released yet. But, all Yahia saw was that I would debate “any day of the week”. Derp!


Hopefully Yahia will learn that words in a sentence are meant to be read and processed as one full statement. Also, I hope that they can find their own humanity and wait until the victims are rescued and/or evacuated and the suspects captured before they attempt to make assumptions and engage in political debate. Time will tell.

Random Rant About Partisanship, Debate, and REAL Solutions

About a week ago I had an eye-opening experience on Twitter with someone from my own side of an issue. Since then, I’ve realized that I am just sick and tired of the partisan, one-track minded people who claim to want the country to be better…as long as it meets THEIR strict guidelines.

This country fought to be free from having others’ views forced on them. If you are one of the ignorant pissants trying to say the only way our nation will be great is if we follow one ideology’s rules, you need to move. Yes. I went with a cliché “move if you don’t like it” statement.

Republicans, conservatives, Democrats, and liberals are all freaking out, in their own ways, about the scandals, government overreach, abortion, immigration, etc right now.

How about we stop fighting about what we believe and start talking about how we can create solutions to our problems?

If you’re a liberal, you already know what conservatives stand for so why are you fighting about it? The same goes for conservatives and liberal views. Why are you sitting around mocking and screaming about one another’s viewpoints like it’s the first time you’ve heard them?

The majority of conservatives are pro-life, believe in limited government, are against gay/lesbian marriage equality, want lower taxes, etc, etc, etc.

Most liberals want bigger government, have little issue with higher taxes if it means more social assistance and education for the poor, are pro-choice, for marriage equality regardless of sexual orientation, etc, etc, etc.

Why are you all fighting on the principles that everyone knows you have?

  • Instead of arguing about whether abortion should or shouldn’t be legal, why not accept the fact that abortion is not going anywhere, as much as you might hate it, Conservatives. It has been ruled as a right for all women to have an abortion. Yes. I agree with you that this sucks, but no amount of whining or complaining is going to change it. So instead of acting like we’re going to make it go away if we just scream about it long and loud enough let’s talk to pro-choicers about it and why it is so widely used and how we can reduce it? Why not discuss regulating the clinics that perform them so that they meet the same standards as other medical facilities to prevent more deaths and injuries to women who choose to have an abortion? We might not like it but we aren’t going to stop abortions from happening. Focus on the things that need to be done to ensure we aren’t losing lives needlessly and are reducing the number of abortions. Maybe, if we do it right and talk about what’s really causing the spike in abortions, we can reduce the number so low that the only women who “need” an abortion are victims of sexual assault.
  • Have a problem with the government snooping on your phone records and e-mails? First, make sure you had the same view when it was a Republican president in office. Otherwise, you are a damn hypocrite and need to shut the hell up. Second, it isn’t just this president’s administration that has engaged in this practice so instead of blaming the democrats and Obama, why not examine who knew about it and how long it has been happening and address it from there. This is not a partisan issue. We are ALL Americans and it isn’t just the left or the right’s records being caught in the government’s net.
  • The IRS targeting one political affiliation is outrageous! If you are a democrat or liberal who is saying that the Tea Party and other conservative groups deserved what they got because they oppose big government, take a good look at yourself in the mirror. Now think back to when you thought the Bush administration was doing things like this to you and your party but there was never any proof. Consider this: would you be so quick to blame the victims of the targeting if it was your own party? The very same agency that your party is putting in charge of the Affordable Care Act has been proven and admitted to have been unfair toward one political ideology…just because. Don’t you think you should be upset at the IRS, not the Tea Party? Don’t you think that if it were left leaning groups being delayed indefinitely from attaining that coveted tax-exempt status, you’d be rallying against the White House, Congress, and the IRS? Think about what you say now because I have a feeling it will come back to bite you in the ass during the next Republican presidential term.
  • Oh, and before I forget, can you all just shut the hell up about racism in politics? Both sides look so stupid for constantly pointing out how racist or not racist their party is all the time. Liberals, you don’t have a monopoly on anti-racism so your constant badgering and accusations of racism against conservatives makes you look desperate. If you can’t debate conservatives on the merits of your views and facts, just stop. Calling them racists doesn’t win the debate for you. There are members of every race and religion in both parties. Minimizing and attacking the very same people you are claiming to defend just because they are not democrats makes you look pretty damn stupid. Being conservative and black are not mutually exclusive. It does happen and for you to diminish the character of every black conservative you hear about makes YOU the racist.

Conservatives, this is for you:

  • Why the hell are you so damn upset about human beings who love each other getting married just because they are the same gender? They’re humans! The conservative movement is supposed to stand for constitutional rights and equality for everyone but you’re fighting something that doesn’t even affect you directly! I can understand protesting abortion because it, in effect, is destroying a human life but two women or two men getting married to each other? How does that affect your life? How does that affect humanity? Does their marital status keep you up at night? Are you unable to work, entertain, eat, enjoy your own family just because some same-sex couple got married? In this instance, you are wrong for using your religion to dictate what other people do with their own lives.
  • Remember how upset you are when atheists win cases against displaying nativity scenes at Christmas or deny you the right to live your life the way you’d like because of their lack of religious faith? Well, you are doing the same thing to others WITH your religious faith. God and Jesus never said that it is your job to prevent others’ happiness by telling them how horrible and wrong they are for loving one another. If two women are only happy if they are together, how is that any of your damn business?

I’m sorry if I have offended my many conservative friends but I’ve made it clear before that I DO NOT blindly follow any one political ideology. I think for myself and if many of my views fall on the conservative side, then so be it but that does not mean I will support every idiotic thing conservatives say or do. The same goes for liberals and what views I have that fall on the left side of a debate. Stop being partisan and start being individuals.

I have found that some of the most hateful comments and views come from the extremes on both sides of debate. If you are unwilling to listen to the other side of an issue without using mean-spirited words and verbal assaults then you need to shut up and go sit the fuck down. We don’t need the extremists of either party trying to reframe how our country operates. Only common sense will create logical solutions to our issues. If you can’t think logically, you don’t deserve to speak.

If you don’t like what I have said today, feel free to skedaddle on over to your partisan follower base and complain about me. Everyone knows that preaching to the choir sure is effective. *that was sarcasm, by the way*

I love discussing politics but these things have really been bothering me the last couple of weeks. Especially when people from MY side of a debate felt it necessary to be insensitive and hurtful just to make a point. Grow up, people. We aren’t elementary kids fighting about who was in line first. Names didn’t work back then and they sure as hell don’t work now.

Wake Up Call: Karma And Humility Punched Me In The Face Today

I got a quick and eye-opening lesson in humility this morning.

In less than 20 words, one person was able to make me feel like the biggest and most cruel piece of shit in existence. The message, according to the writer, was not directed at me personally but the wording appeared otherwise. *This person did apologize, in her own way, and I accepted it because I would like to believe the intention was not to hurt me the way she did.

Surprisingly and before I think I had even read it, the most unsuspecting defenders showed up to support and comfort me. The very same person who I have been, admittedly, trashing and mocking on an, almost, daily basis, offered words of compassion and understanding without blinking an eye.

This simple gesture…putting differences of opinion, in a heated debate, aside and showing compassion for your opposition broke through the “cockiness” I had been carrying around. I had been so focused on my belief that I was right and they were wrong that I ignored one of my biggest rules; be civil to one another. When the hurtful words were, seemingly, hurled in my direction, I woke up quick.

We can all disagree without being disagreeable, is how the saying goes, I think. That’s just a tricky way of saying, “hey, just because you disagree with someone doesn’t mean you have to say stupid, hurtful things to make your points”.

I think we all need to reevaluate the way we are approaching our opponents on an issue and make sure we enter a conversation with respect for their opinions, even if we don’t agree. Once the words of anger and hurt are let loose, no amount of deleting or apologizing can erase them. Forgiveness doesn’t erase a person’s memory.

I promise to try to practice, more faithfully and consistently, my rule of civility toward one another. I didn’t like having personal insults thrown in my direction and I will do my damnedest to avoid doing it to others.

Thanks to my defenders and supporters this morning. I really believe your words of kindness prevented a complete meltdown of my mental/emotional state today. I was close. Thank you so much!

Remember what we teach our kids… If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything. Easier said than done, I know, so how about this: Remember that the person on the other end of the debate is just like you. They may not have the same opinions or experiences but that doesn’t mean they haven’t experienced things in their life that made them who they are today. We are all human and unique. If we agreed on everything…well, I don’t even want to live in a world like that.

Have a great day everyone! I’m going to make every attempt to do so, myself. My youngest and the most beautiful little girl on the planet is turning 11 years old tomorrow (going on 25! haha)

The Best of the Best of the Pro-Choice Movement? Wow.

I really tried to avoid these two after the other day’s absurdity but somehow they keep showing up in my Twitter timeline even after I blocked them because they have resorted to trolling the people I follow. When the people I follow interact with them, they’re stupidity is thrown right back up in my face. Of course, my curiosity gets peaked because I know firsthand some of the loony things they say so I get sucked into reading the conversations. They never fail to infuriate and confuse me with their logic. That’s for sure.

Once again, I’m going to show you how silly these two’s arguments are about birth control versus abortion.

According to Lisa, if she didn’t get her IUD a decade ago, she would have gotten pregnant 40 times and had 40 abortions. Did you get that? 40 pregnancies and 40 abortions!

Let me run through that for you…

Lisa is basically saying that if she didn’t have an IUD(no-thought birth control) or maybe the government paid for BC Pill, she wouldn’t use a condom or any other type of prevention measures; not even the ineffective but, at least you tried, method of having your partner “pull-out”. She would just continue to have sex without regard for what would happen and every time she got pregnant, she’d have an abortion. After the first pregnancy and abortion, she wouldn’t have learned her lesson or anything. Nope. She would repeat this cycle over and over again, 4 times a year!

Am I missing something? Is this the type of people that are fighting for women’s rights and the pro-choice movement? Women who are saying that they would have 4 abortions a year without birth control? She actually said that she wouldn’t want 40 babies so she’d have 40 abortions. Nevermind that her math was … WHOA! *36-40 weeks (that’s 9-10 months for the mathematically challenged) of pregnancy divided into 120 months (10 years) does NOT equal 40 children* Well, unless you are having twins and triplets every single time you deliver and are having sex again the day after you have your baby(s).

And without further ado, I give you the logic of the pro-choice movement. These are their most highly regarded treasures and advocates for the cause, I bet.


But WE are the ignorant ones…..


Wait, didn’t Lisa just say she didn’t want 40 kids so she’d have 40 abortions? Family planning????? Really???


I can’t…….I just can’t……. *shaking my head*

Yep, you caught us! We hate birth control. We just like to bitch and complain about things so hey, why not bitch about people being irresponsible and not using their FREE birth control and then having 40 abortions! Makes sense…


And, lastly, let me educate Lisa and Shannon on how Twitter functions. If you are talking to people I follow, I can see what you say, even if I block you, unless you block me back. Also, if you MT me in the reply and the people who I follow/follow me keep the @’s the same, then I’ll get notifications from the conversation. So, if you don’t want me to see what you’re saying, then don’t MT me and consider blocking me, dimwits. Otherwise, shut up and quit your whining.


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